It seems there was less talk about New Year Resolutions during the transition from 2020 to 2021. Perhaps that was one of the few positive outcomes of Covid-19 and the myriad of other challenges from such a difficult year.
New Year Resolutions, despite their seemingly optimistic and empowering intent, often set us up for failure. Lasting changes and efforts at self-improvement stem from a series of incremental changes that are sustainable and based on realistic action-steps.
Getting Started on Positive Change
It may be relatively simple to list things that need improvement, but that is part of the problem with developing traditional resolutions. While it is practical to think about what needs work, it automatically puts our minds in a defensive mode of thinking. Instead, consider a broader approach to your self-assessment.
Create a three-column list with the headings:
what I like about myself, what I do well, and what needs work. Taking an inventory of your strengths, positive attributes and areas for improvement shifts the focus from identifying only the problem areas. Most of us respond well to positive reinforcement, and this includes the way we talk to ourselves.
Negative self-evaluation and derogatory self-talk are some of the most detrimental aspects perpetuating depression and other emotional health challenges. Practicing a more balanced view of ourselves offers a greater likelihood of making sustainable change in the areas that need it, without ignoring our strengths.
As you consider your three categories in the self-assessment exercise, look for ways to use your positive traits and skills to bolster your work on the areas of need.
For example, if you noticed that you have “organizational skills” listed as something you do well, and “financial problems” as an area that needs work, consider approaching the finances through the lens of organization, creating priority categories and problem-solving ways to organize the budget effectively.
Establishing Reasonable Goals and Action-Steps
If you have a goal that is a bit complex, such as “lose weight,” it may be necessary to create smaller action steps to work toward that goal. Establishing action steps is a good way to make that large goal more doable; it is taking on the problem one inch at a time.
An action step toward the weight loss goal could be something simple such as “eat a green salad with one meal each day,” or “for each cup of coffee I will drink two cups of water,” and “I will do five crunches each night before bed.” These are simple and measurable steps that, when consistently followed, will yield results.
Ideas for Self-Improvement
Perhaps you are interested in self-improvement but would like some ideas for where to get started. Here are some ideas to consider, with simple action steps to help you reach your goal.
Broaden your cultural awareness.
It is easy to become culturally myopic in day-to-day life. To broaden your horizons, learn more about other cultures and have fun while doing it. Action step ideas: Watch a foreign film or documentary about another culture once per week or select a random country to learn about, including traditions, belief systems and other areas of interest.
Everyone is so stressed out right now, and with good reason. Now more than ever we need connection to our inner sense of calm, but will we begin meditating everyday for an hour? Probably not. Small steps toward stress reduction are more practical. Action step ideas: Practice mindfulness through small increments of time.
Set aside two minutes per day to carefully observe an object, such as a natural item (a pinecone, rock, or shell); notice as much as you can about the item and bring your attention back to the item if your mind starts to wander. Mindful walks are also helpful for reducing stress; pay attention to the sights, smells, and sounds as you go, staying fully present in the moment.
Have more fun.
Hard work is important but having fun and enjoying life is equally as vital for a life well lived. What do you like to do? Have you always wanted to try something new but haven’t made time for it or felt unsure? Action step ideas: Schedule time for fun activities. Make sure you put it into your schedule every single week and allot yourself plenty of time for it without rushing. Check your guilt at the door; remember to look at fun activities as an important part of your overall health; you wouldn’t feel guilty for eating a bowl of broccoli, right?
Whether you opt for health or fitness goals, financial stability or simply having more fun, your self-improvement goals can be achieved through paying attention to your strengths, using them to your advantage, and creating smaller, action steps toward success.